Writing

Recovery & Healing

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Personal essays on healing from complex trauma — the recovery, not the diagnosis.

There’s a paradox in writing, that the more personal and specific something is, often the more universal it ends up being. I’m sharing these stories to help other people feel seen by them, so that people know they aren’t alone, and that recovery is possible for anyone. We all deserve healing, no matter what we may tell ourselves if we feel despair.

Whether you’re here for the science of it, the ordinary daily work of it, or just to feel less alone — start anywhere.

Just know that for the rest of your life, even though we don’t know each other, this is me, in this place, rooting for you. I’m rooting for you to find your healing, to have your own double-lucky life, and to find that peace and love that’s possible. And I’ll keep sharing along the way.

Resources: NAMI (PTSD) · VA National Center for PTSD · CPTSD Foundation · Stephanie Foo · Pete Walker.

July 2, 2026
Story

Suicide in the Age of Kung Fu

Growing up as the only kid who looked like him in a small, unkind town — and the unlikely place an escape route showed up.
July 2, 2026
Story

So Let Me Share Something

Written for a parent worried about their own child — about a family that went quiet after a loss, and the long process of learning to speak again.
July 2, 2026
Keynote

Carl Jung: Dreams, Shadow, Unconscious

Fred’s journey through Complex PTSD, Jung’s writings, and the synchronicities that led to his own healing.
November 10, 2025
Essay

Notes from the Scapegoat

I watch people around me closely. It’s deep in my nervous system. I’ve rewired so much of my behavior, and keep doing the work via CBT because it works for me. But there’s some things that stay with me. One thing I watch for is displaced anger. Like, someone is upset with person A. But […]
September 11, 2025
Essay

Writing in Community

My community, the place where I feel seen and safe, is writers. My alignment, the people I feel challenged and inspired by, who I also spark, are harder to describe. I’m still looking for the words. Peace walkers. Kind talkers. The ones who talk to the wind so much that the idea of threats just […]
June 25, 2025
Essay

4 Drafts

FIRST DRAFT
June 15, 2025
Essay

Yale

Anyone who knows me probably noticed why this picture is a big deal. I never wear stuff with logos on it. Maybe a Superman T-shirt like 30 years ago. But always a plain front. If I wear buttoned up shirts, maybe a tiny logo on the shirt pocket. But I prefer stuff without logos or […]
April 23, 2025
Essay

Self-Sabotage

When you have CPTSD, one of the first things that you learn is that, yes, you might have trouble with being vulnerable. The way that I masked up and hid my vulnerabilities was two-fold. The first way was by being very charming. My mom had this kind of sparkly quality she could bring out, that […]

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