A ghost story built from a real childhood memory: a nighttime visitation by a woman who looked like his mother, and a family history it took years to understand. Draws on Korean gwisin (ghost) tradition and the weight carried in a single phrase — dowajuseyo, “help me” — to connect a personal haunting to his maternal grandmother’s history. A ~10-minute piece about inherited grief and the stories families hold onto until you’re ready to hear them.
Speaking / Storytelling
DOWAJUSEYO (도와주세요)
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